Dating

·         “There are many qualities you will want to look for in a friend or a serious date--to say nothing of a spouse and eternal companion--but surely among the very first and most basic of those qualities will be those of care and sensitivity toward others, a minimum of self-centeredness that allows compassion and courtesy to be evident.” –Elder Jeffrey R. Holland in “Qualities of an Eternal Companion” (June 2008)

·         “…in a world of varied talents and fortunes that we can't always command, I think that makes even more attractive the qualities we can command--such qualities as thoughtfulness, patience, a kind word, and true delight in the accomplishment of another.” –Elder Jeffrey R. Holland in “Qualities of an Eternal Companion” (June 2008)

·         “Simple and more frequent dates allow both men and women to “shop around” in a way that allows extensive evaluation of the prospects.” –Elder Dallin H. Oaks in “Dating versus Hanging Out” (June 2006 Ensign)

·         “Gather your courage and look for someone to pair off with.” –Elder Dallin H. Oaks in “Dating versus Hanging Out” (June 2006 Ensign)

·         “Young women, resist too much hanging out, and encourage dates that are simple, inexpensive, and frequent.” –Elder Dallin H. Oaks in “Dating versus Hanging Out” (June 2006 Ensign)

·         “Marriage is not a group activity—at least, not until the children come along in goodly numbers.” –Elder Dallin H. Oaks in “Dating versus Hanging Out” (June 2006 Ensign)

·         “In cultures where dating is appropriate, do not date until you are 16 years old.” –President Thomas S. Monson in “Preparation Brings Blessings” (April 2010 General Conference)

·         “Because dating is a preparation for marriage, ‘date only those who have high standards.’” –President Thomas S. Monson in “Preparation Brings Blessings” (April 2010 General Conference)

·         “In dating, treat your date with respect, and expect your date to show that same respect for you.” –President Thomas S. Monson in “Preparation Brings Blessings” (April 2010 General Conference)

·         “Men, take care not to make women weep, for God counts their tears.” –President Thomas S. Monson in “Preparation Brings Blessings” (April 2010 General Conference)

Position Statement:

I know that dating can potentially lead to marriage and that’s why we should not take it lightly. To me, it’s important to know the person before starting to date them, but I’ll have to see if that’s what Heavenly Father has planned for me. I know that it’s important to date the “right way,” as far as not being completely alone in a private place. This can lead to things that will stall someone’s future for obtaining eternal marriage. It’s also important to treat others with kindness and compassion. These are good qualities to exhibit while we are dating, so that we don’t end up driving the right one away.